Building Relationships Organically - Part 2

Step 1: Connect

We started this series by exploring the concept of building relationships organically, the natural way nearly all of us follow when we aren't trying so hard to get something.

Without thinking about it, we do go through an instinctive process of connecting, conversing and converting. We connect with the people around us at work, at school, in our community. We converse with them, learn who they are and share something about ourselves. And then through conversation over time, the interaction converts into friendship.

You don't have to change how you relate to people to network successfully if you just tap into your natural instincts with this natural process.

This week, we cover the Connect step in more detail. How can you connect more organically, without the uncomfortable feeling that you're forcing yourself on others?

You already know people

A big part of the solution is to connect more deeply with more people who are already around you, those involved in the same activities, interested in the same issues, or pursuing the same goals. When you already share a common purpose with someone, the rest of the process of conversation and conversion flow more easily.

Here are some things you can do to increase the number and improve the quality of your organic relationships.

Increase and improve

Be inclusive. Rather than eat lunch every day with your usual cohort of colleagues, or hang out with the same three people for every meal at a multi-day conference, invite others to join you. Explore the circumstances that brought you to the same place and you may discover common goals and values on which to build meaningful and productive relationships.

Don't go it alone. Get involved in things that interest you but do them with other people. In the book Bowling Alone, Robert D. Putnam chronicled that the percentage of Americans joining organized groups--whether they be sports leagues, professional associations, political committees, etc.--has declined dramatically over the last 30-40 years.

Take advantage of whatever environments you're in to bond with the people around you. Effortless relationships are all around us, ready to be made, if we just open the gates.

Stay tuned next week for more detail on Step 2: Converse.

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